I’m now living in the 21st century as I have officially become a blogger.
I look forward to corresponding with others and parting information, either my own or informative information from other folks.
I decided for my first blog that I would share my thoughts on how much energy we spend tolerating things because we’re not taking care of business.
I’ll title this:
The Energy of Tolerations!
Have you ever thought about how much stuff you tolerate each day that, for the most part is not necessary? Putting up with tolerations holds us back, causes us grief and wastes our time and energy.
We are often taught not to complain, that life is difficult, not to rock the boat, to go along with others, to be grateful for what we have and to be understanding. Although not necessarily bad advice, we can stop tolerating things that negatively impact our life!
Tolerations may not be good for us, but they do give us a guaranteed source of energy. We humans are the same: we’re focused on getting through the day and whether it takes caffeine, unmet needs, tolerations or disturbances, by gosh, we’re going to make sure we have what it takes to make it until bedtime.
However, there is a tremendous down side to putting up with tolerations. I believe that each toleration we endure drains energy from us. Did you ever think that you might be able to accomplish much more of the things that “really matter” to you if you tolerated less?
Think about a time where you put up with something or someone when you knew in your heart the situation was not good for you. It doesn’t have to be a big thing. It could be something as simple as not cleaning your kitchen, or not changing the oil in your car, even though it needed to be changed a month ago. Your filing system may be a mess or you’re neglecting to balance your check book. It may be something bigger like tolerating issues in a relationship where clear boundaries have not been established. Begin taking a look at what you’re tolerating and start taking baby steps to eliminate them and watch what happens.
When we eliminate tolerations we raise our standards and improve our quality of life. But until we stop tolerating, no significant changes can happen.
When you begin to take actions to stop tolerating, be prepared for a possible downside and make sure you have enough “insurance” or resources to handle the risk. Identify the little things to stop putting up with first, until you get a handle on just how far you can take it. When you stop tolerating the little things you will likely discover that you can take it much further than you first believed possible.
Ask Yourself…
1. Why do I have tolerations in my life? How do they really work for me?
2. Am I ready to find another source of energy? How do I know I am?
3. What would it mean to have no tolerations, to be a Toleration-Free Zone?
Begin Eliminating Tolerations:
- Write down all of the tolerations you can think of (keep adding to the list), even if you don’t know how to resolve them. Just acknowledging what you are tolerating is worthwhile. The solution will come.
- Look for a pivotal toleration which refers to something that you are putting up with that when handled, will resolve other tolerations, automatically.
- Don’t just handle the toleration, make sure you identify the source or you will have to handle the same toleration (or its cousin) again. You can eliminate the toleration by eliminating the source, setting up an automatic system, resolving the problem, telling the truth, etc.
The benefits we gain from removing tolerations in our life are enormous. We will stop wasting time, trying to manage situations that shouldn’t be there in the first place. We find that we have more energy to devote to our quality of life. There is a greater opportunity for growth because we are not distracted or weighed down with tolerations. Our community will be upgraded and we will have more energy to spend with fulfilling people. We will also model for our family and friends what is possible for them.
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